Love,  Musings

35 Things I Love About You

To my Mr E

On your lovely 35th birthday, still in the spirit of doing things Iโ€™ve never done before, I am writing you this love note to highlight 35 things I love about you.

Grab a coffee (that fancy one you like), sit back (Iโ€™m guessing youโ€™re doing this already), enjoy!

1.ย  ย I love that you put me first, always and seek my opinion on important things.

2.ย  ย I love that you constantly encourage and teach me how to be a better version of myself. You make me feel strong, like I can do anything I put my mind to.

3.ย  ย I love that youโ€™re the most optimistic person I know. No matter how dire a situation is, youโ€™re always optimistic that something good will come out of it.

4.ย  ย I love that you cuddle and watch KUWTK (and all my fave cartoons and soppy romantic movies on Netflix) with me. I know you think they are not your thing but we both know you secretly love them as much as I do.

5.ย  ย I love your love for travel and how weโ€™ve made it our thing. Thatโ€™s one of my favourite things to do with you.

6.ย  ย I love that your face lights up when you see a beautiful sunset or during beautiful moments like NYE fireworks display or coming face to face with something youโ€™ve looked forward to. Your face is so beautiful, my love.

7.ย  ย I love that you are so ambitious. You want something, you plan how to go for it, you get it, smash it and then, it is unto the next.

8.ย  ย I love that you accepted me into your bubble of happiness and it is now our bubble. We share this bubble that I feel canโ€™t burst or be penetrated. It is so magical!

9.ย  ย I love that you are always pushing causes for women. Your feminism is inspiring and if more men were like you on that topic, this world would be a safer and better space for women.

10.ย  ย I love that you encourage my ideas. You never feel threatened by my success or dim my achievements, you are my no 1 cheerleader, supporter, and youโ€™re constantly celebrating me.

11.ย  ย I love that you are very passionate about Arsenal and Arsene Wenger. I mean, they keep breaking our hearts but you are the most loyal and passionate supporter I know. Yes, you are very loyal.

12.ย  ย I love how you love my family so much. You have basically stepped into big brother and father role to my little brother and that boy worships the ground you walk on. The love you showed my mummy as well, sending her fruit baskets on motherโ€™s day without my knowledge and all your cute convos and pictures with her. Even planning all the arrangements with the funeral director, coroner and registrar when I just couldnโ€™t stop crying or articulate my words properly. I would never understand how I got so blessed.

13.ย  ย I love that you love God.

14.ย  ย I love your smell. The fresh, the back-from-gym-stink, all of them, I love!

15.ย  ย I love your sexy bum. Fave thing I love about your gorgeous body.

16.ย  ย Oh now we are talking bums, I love you in a suit or in sweat pants or in swim shorts. I got me a man who looks good in any and everything.

17.ย  ย I love that you check up on me every day at work.

18.ย  ย I love that you are so intelligent. Legit the smartest man I know. You didnโ€™t get that Distinction in uni by fluke!

19.ย  ย I love that you give everything at your job. There is no chance for mediocrity with you; always excellence.

20.ย  ย I love that even when we have an argument and we donโ€™t like each other very much in that moment, we never stop loving each other and I know that we will always find a way back into our bubble.

21.ย  ย I love that you sparked my love for classical music and introduced me to Andrea Bocelli and now, heโ€™s our happy music.

22.ย  ย I love that you love watching theatre productions with me and that our fave movie is Les Miserables and that no matter how many times weโ€™ve seen it, youโ€™ll always see it with me.

23.ย  ย I love that you never take away from where you come from. You are a proud black and Igbo man; itโ€™s so sexy to me.

24.ย  ย I love that you are a daddyโ€™s boy. The way your face lights up when you call him to update him on your recent achievement and itโ€™s cute that you still want him to be proud of you even at your big age looool

25.ย  ย I love that you will eat anything. I mean, ANYTHING haha

26.ย  ย I love that you take care of your material things and know the value of money spent on them. Your one million pairs of white sneakers, your car and your designer items, I love how youโ€™re so meticulous about cleaning and storing them.

27.ย  ย I love that you are close to your siblings and chat with them all the time. You are such a family man and I love it.

28.ย  ย I love that you 100% respect me, my opinions and choices.

29.ย  ย I love that you are a responsible man. You know your integrity and will never compromise. You are a great person.

30.ย  ย I love that you went all in with me. You gave our relationship a chance even when we were uncertain of the future; you knew what you wanted and always went for it (aka me. LMAO) โ€“ tbh the best decision youโ€™ve ever made right?!

31.ย  ย I love that I know your heart. It is never a guessing game with you. I know where I am with you at all times and it feels secure.

32.ย  ย I love the way you love me. No halves, you are all in and our intimate moments will always be a major part of our happy times.

33.ย  ย I love that you are so strong for me. Iโ€™m such an emotional mess whenever life tests us and you are always there holding on, standing in the gap and asking the right questions (while Iโ€™m somewhere crying smh). This is me saying thank you most especially for the last 4 months.

34.ย  ย I love that you married me you know?! Like you actually thought โ€œwow this babe is actually a peng tingโ€ and married me. I rate you for marrying a 10/10 tbh!

35.ย  ย Lastly, I love that you are growing more beautiful and even sexier every day. Itโ€™s refreshing that Iโ€™ll always fancy the pants off you!

I got to number 35 and realised that there are still a lot more things I love about you but these will do for now. Happy 35th my love, Iโ€™ll always be your no 1 fan, cheer leader, shag and whatever else you want me to be. Today gets even better in a few hours.

Je tโ€™aime ร  la folie

Your Mrs E.

60 Comments

  • Teemah

    Oh my God this is one of the most beautiful thing Iโ€™ve read in a while….happy Birthday Me E

    • Blessing Mukosha Park

      So I came across your birthday thread on Twitter and I read this blog post and ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿฅบโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

      The thing I find most beautiful about this is (and apologies if it sounds strange) but I just broke up with someone I really loved and I was feeling kind of hopeless. I used to write poems and letters and stuff and I was made to feel really strange about it and that I was being too โ€œintenseโ€ by expressing my love this way. I saw this and it filled me with such joy because I can just feel how pure and honest your love is and seeing it shared like this, in such a genuine way just lit me up and made me feel really happy. I know that there is someone for me who would appreciate me planning a whole host of birthday surprises (I really do things like you did and go all out for the person I love) and wouldnโ€™t use that as a reason to put me down (yes, it is possible).

      Anyway sorry for rambling, I just want to share my congratulations both to your husband on his birthday, and to you for being so bold in showing your love and sharing it with the world. It really made me smile to see this โค๏ธ

      • Bugo

        oh gosh Blessing I am so sorry!
        (apologies for my delay in responding)
        Pls don’t apologise, my wish has always been for my blog to be a space where women are free to share as much as they are comfortable to. I love poems and letters – I still write those too hehe. You are not intense and you are not too much. Your person will find you and suddenly, it will all makes sense. Just don’t change who you really are or try to water yourself down to please anyone!

        I wish you the best darling and I’m glad I made you smile x

    • Ayomikun

      Waoh!!! The kinda things I want to be reading. Thank you for sharing with us. That blissful relationships like these exists. Better years ahead for you two.

  • Pamilerin Jacob

    This is the best thing I have read this year, the cutest too. I wish you two, unending bliss. ๐ŸŒน

  • Ogechi Nwobia

    This is such a sweet and beautiful tribute!
    I love love love it!
    In this time and age where it seems like good, secure and well rounded men are hard to come by, it is so heartwarming and refreshing to read this!
    Happy birthday to your husband!
    Wishing him many more years and wishing you both a lifetime of bliss and never-ending unfolding layers of sweetness and pure magic!

    • Bugo

      aww Thank you for your lovely comment Ogechi. So lovely of you to write such a heartfelt note.
      Now, I’m by no means a relationship adviser (ha!) but I just think that what works (for me at least) was putting all my cards on the table from day 1 and him doing the same; as the years have gone by, we have grown together making sure not to leave the other person behind. We are very intentional about our relationship and communicate quite well.

      Thank you again and I wish you your own magic as well x

  • Uzoamaka

    The two of you and your relationship and the genuine honesty of your relationship is one of the biggest reasons for my continued faith in love, loving and being loved. Great post!!

    • Bugo

      sis!!!! awwww LOVE YOU SIS!!
      Of course you have to have faith in love, loving and being loved. Can’t be my sister and think otherwise hahaha I will always bring you back to it x

    • Adesola

      I love love! I got quite emotional reading this.. May God grant me a good man to share all of this and more.
      And may God continue to uphold your union.. Hugs

  • Henrietta

    Happy birthday Somto.. thank you for putting a smile on Bugoโ€™s face . Many more blessed years to both of you .โค๏ธ

  • Anonymous

    Lord bless and keep this couple. Let their love grow strong and may they always always have cause to smile.

  • Onyeka

    Bugo this is so beautiful!! Happy birthday to Mr E! Thanks for being Mrs Eโ€™s cameraman and give us bomb pictures ๐Ÿ˜

  • Dee

    Beautifully written, happy birthday to your husband. You are very intentional with your live and with celebrating him. May you always have your โ€˜bubble โ€˜ and each other as a safe place, a place of encouragement. May the life youโ€™ve chosen to build together continue to be beautiful. Itโ€™s your birthday too so happy bday !!!

  • Dooshima

    I rate you 10/10 for marrying me ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ Happy 35th to Bugos Mr. E!! Thankyou for holding her down!!!

  • Mielle

    Such a beautiful read!!! Happy birthday to the love of your life Somto! May he keep making you happy and you doing the same for him! Love you both ๐Ÿ˜˜

  • Nkechi

    Happy Birthday to Mr E, wishing him many more years in good health ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฟ. Your union is blessed, true love ๐Ÿ’• and I admire your love ๐Ÿฅฐ. Having a man that loves you and your family is Amazing ๐Ÿ˜‰. Now you have mentioned it I will check out the bum when I see mr E ๐Ÿ™ˆ

  • Abby

    This Has To Be The Most Beautiful Piece EVER! I Am Literally Crying…. I Donโ€™t Know Either Of You Personally But I AM VERYYYYYY HAPPY! I Am Always Happy About Love! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ Nothing Is More Beautiful Than Loving And Being Genuinely Loved In Return๐Ÿ˜ญ. Itโ€™s A RARE Thing These Days! Always So So Glad To Read And Feel Something So Genuine As I Feel Right Now. Love Your Key Points๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ.

    This Is. An Assurance (For Me) That I Will Also Be Lucky When I Am Married In Jesus Name!! Amennnnnn ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ
    Happy Birthday To Your Hubby๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰. Wish You Both All The Happiness In The Entire World๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽŠ. Enjoy Your Beautiful Day… Mr And MrsE๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

    • Bugo

      awwww thank you for reading and for taking the time to leave this lovely, detailed comment.
      you don’t even have to be lucky, just have to be very intentional from the time you meet and continue being that way throughout x

  • Adaku

    I GO LOVE O!! Man, Bugo I love how you love out loud, Iโ€™m not good at it at all and itโ€™s always been one of my favourite things about you. This is so beautiful and Somto is a very very lucky man.

    But he is amazing and we love him and even though I canโ€™t be there for you all the time because of distance, Iโ€™m always secure that youโ€™re good because heโ€™s there with you.

    Now I feel like crying. Yuck. Have to go watch love and hip hop and get some of my agbero back.

    • Bugo

      awwww my Daks! so funny how you’ve seen us grow up from day 1 looool. gosh been a long journey sha!
      He is indeed very blessed haha ok I am blessed to have him too.

      PS – don’t run away from the mush, LHH won’t save you LMAOOOOOO
      x

  • Tife

    My fave post of yours to date! I read this with a huge grin on my face, this is true love and its refreshing to see in the 21st century!

    Thanks for being an inspiration – happy birthday Mr. E! We love a strong, secure black man – thanks for being all that you are to Mrs E.

    • Bugo

      your fave for real for real?
      ahhh i’m glad! Thank you so much ma belle and yes to strong secure black men!
      x

  • Yej

    This was such a beautiful read Bugo; all in the feels, love love it โค๏ธ
    Thank you!

    Happy birthday to Mr. E, wishing you both all the fancier things of life โ˜บ๏ธ

    • Rumz

      I’m still trying to catch up on your blog as I am only just getting back to my routine. This is my 1st read in a while and it is beautiful. God bless your loving and amazing supporting guy. Cheers to the next 35years and to reading 70 things you love about Somto ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Lou

        OMG! This is so sweet โค๏ธ Iโ€™ve been looking for the things to do on my fiancรฉs 35th birthday and I saw this ๐Ÿ˜‰โค๏ธ This is such a pure love! Hope you both have a happy life with each other and stay in love ๐Ÿฅฐโ˜บ๏ธ Now Iโ€™m a fan of yours.